Through the years, between experience, reading books and learning from my own observations, I have learned a lot about how cats communicate. If you pay attention, there are many signs that your cat has that has nothing to do with meowing or purring.
How many times have you caught your cat just staring at you, looking like she’s glaring? You feel like you’re being watched and judged by the cat himself?
Take a moment to reassess the situation. This is what I call “Friend Eyes”. A cat that wants to show you they mean no harm and they are friendly will close their eyes part way, and to us, it appears that they are glaring, or giving you the evil eye. To gain the trust back from your cat, try giving them “Friend Eyes” and you might be surprised by getting the same back!
Another eye sign that cats use is the slow blink. This basically means that they are comfortable in your presence. You may also want to try this one out. Especially on a cat that may not like you that well. Without petting, you can relay to the cat that you won’t hurt her.
Have you ever noticed that your cat will run or walk towards you with their tail straight into the air, but the tip of the tail will be hooked? This is a sign of friendship. The cat is not scared of your presence and wants you to know that by his advancement, he is friendly. Usually, a good rub on the leg will come after this.
Speaking of rubbing, your cat may do this a lot on you. Go ahead and let her. She is claiming you as hers. You know that there is a saying that cats own their humans, not the other way around. Your kitty is reaffirming this when he rubs on you.
A form of affection is when your cat head bumps you. Generally, she would prefer to butt your forehead and will do so if she can. If he’ll let you, do it back and let him know that you love him also!
Touch. Cats love touching. They touch prey, food, toys, fuzz, anything that interests them or that they love. I’ve really noticed that they like to touch our skin with the pads of their paws. There’s nothing like some kitty lovin’ when you’ve got a kitty paw touching your cheek.
I’m sure there are tons more that I haven’t learned about or noticed myself. Or that I forgot. And that’s not even going into vocal communication.